Don’t settle for less….

“Earning a living is not difficult….living your dream makes your life worth living”

Jyoti Meena

The newly born child cannot say what he or she is meant to contribute to the world. The same child grows into an adult and even then he/she is not able to figure out their passion or purpose. Many of us think those who are passionate about something is their inborn talent or they figured out things at early age. Many times we call it luck. But none of this is true. Those who are passionate about something have actually spend more time doing that activity, tried to discover it’s depth and hence they understood the things from the core in that particular area. This is no easy task. This do requires patience, perseverance and razor sharp focus. Most of the time people have preconceived notions about the particular activity or profession. This sucks out the joy of discovering the unknown areas and the person is only concerned about the results. Destinations are always sweeter but the journey is not separate from the destination. Destination is also a part of the journey only. Don’t mistake hard for impossible. It all begins with the mindset.

The journey begins only when you know in which direction you should take your first step. Many of us set small targets, are skeptical about our potential or are waiting for someone to believe in our caliber. Always remember, no one except you know yourself to the core. Only you can set limitations in your path and only you can bring the mountain down to your knees. Many times people judge you based upon your past failures and setbacks. Well..there’s no bigger fool than you if you start doubting yourself based on someone else’s opinion. Opinions are meant to be respected but they are not facts. Let your actions speak. On the other hand there are people who are always their to bolster you up during tough times because they have immense faith in you. If you have such people in your life then don’t forget to take some time out to appreciate them from the bottom of your heart.

The more you understand yourself the easier it is to find areas of your interests. But very few of us spend time in solitude. Most of our time goes in scrolling down on our phone screens or gossiping. Life is too short. You never know what may happen. All the world’s greatest inventions and revolutions initiated from a thought. Observe what you say to yourself. Try to be optimistic. If you are serious of achieving your targets then don’t forget to write them down. Make it part of your thinking. Once you know what you are meant to do then give your heart and soul to it. The journey may be monotonous, tiring or boring but you should not lose your confidence at any cost. You cannot settle for less.No more compromises please.You deserve better.You are meant to create a difference, a dent in the universe. Sometimes, you have to make bold decisions so that you don’t regret later in your life. This requires immense level of courage and self belief. Reconsider what you truly need.

If you agree to things you don’t really want, you are building a life that doesn’t reflect your own needs and identity. Allow yourself to pause and go inward.

The journey of UPSC aspirants

Eagerly waiting for “The Hindu” in the morning

Reading it as if it’s not less than any holy book for us

Yeah, sounds strange to those who read newspaper having tea just to flip pages

But that way won’t work for us

We need to watch the details and some editorials do demand to read between the lines

Those fancy vocabulary used sometimes makes no sense

As they say when things become a necessity you have to do it even it sounds non sense

Our friends spend time browsing stuffs that are amusing and mesmerizing

And we  searching the newly formed policies on google and then memorizing

Sometimes it’s the scheme that is in news

Sometimes it’s the recently launched satellite

Sometimes it’s the blockchain, IOT etc..

Sometimes it’s the conventional methods practised in ancient history

Many of us may forget the name of our own pet but we won’t forget the name of the most endangered species on this earth

When others complete the T.V. series watching all the episodes in a day then brag about it

We are busy watching the lectures on Unacademy and You tube so that reading books don’t seem boring

This exam don’t care about your background

It brings all of us on the same platform

You may be an IIM graduate or an IITian

You may be a doctor or working in a most reputated company earning in lakhs

This exam has got nothing to do with whether you were a topper or didn’t do academically well in your school days

It provides equal opportunity to each and every one to crack this exam provided you should be ready to give whatever it takes to make it happen

Sometimes you may have to go through the arduous journey to achieve the most beautiful zenith waiting for your arrival

 

 

 

 

The lessons worth sharing

You might have read so many books, watched many movies which teach lessons on life but the real lessons are always learnt from your experiences only. It’s a natural human tendency that humans generally don’t take advice from someone else but if we ourselves go through the same situation then only we understand the value of the advice that someone once gave us because that person wanted us to learn from their mistakes. In this post i would love to share some lessons which i feel are worth sharing with my readers:

  • People listen what they want to hear: whenever you are having conversation with anybody at any point of time always keep in mind it’s not at all necessary that what you are talking is being understood by the person you are having conversation with. Very few people actually care about what’s happening in your life. Most of the people only listen to things which makes them happy or are doing them some sort of benefit. The only solution to handle this is never expect the other person to understand things from your end otherwise you will surely be disappointed. You just share whatever you want to so that the things don’t keep on troubling you again and again. And on a personal note i would rather suggest you to write every thought on the paper and later throw it, tear it or burn it. This truly works. If you are a blogger or a writer you are really at advantage. You can express your emotions by writing poems. Believe me writing is the best therapy to make you calm and later you can get back to the most important tasks.

  • Your parents are your true well wishers: we all have friends. They all are good but at one or the other point of time in life even the friend whom you are very close to may act selfish. But, your parents will always be there for you whenever you would call them. This is selfless love. Never forget to spend a quality time with your parents.

  • Keep your interests first: always remember you can’t please everyone on this earth. For example, if the world would have not adopted the new technology methods thinking it will not be accepted by people who follow traditional methods then we won’t come across the fourth industrial revolution. Similarly in life too do what’s right for you without worrying what the world think. At least “your happiness is totally under your control”.

  • Never take any action when you are angry, sad or too excited: whenever your mind is feeling extreme levels of joy or sadness or your anger is at the top then please do yourself a favor. Never ever go and react immediately. Take some deep breaths , relax, bring yourself back to normalcy then act. If you really want to avoid regrets in your life then you must always keep this point in mind.

  • Believe in yourself till your last breath: wherever you are, whatever may be the situation you cannot come out of it unless and until you believe in yourself. Your parents, friends, spouse, etc..can only encourage you or can provide you with the external motivation but at the end it’s only you who has to take action. You cannot succeed at anything in life unless and until you have a firm faith in your abilities. Believe me you are so much more powerful than any circumstances of your life. Even if you are alone on the path the divinity will be there to guide you only when you believe in yourself.

  • Cherish every moment: all of us have very few days left in our lives. Always remember to shed your love in the lives of people who truly cares for you. Don’t forget to thank those who are always there for you. Be happy and spread the happiness in your ambiance.

An agitated mind is a devil’s workshop

The human brain is an immensely powerful organ

It provides you with the courage to face your fears

And can also compel you to choose the “flight” response and RUN

None of the battles in the battlefield are won without winning over your “MONKEY MIND”

Responding and reacting when angry is more easier than listening patiently and remain kind

But what most of us forget??

We forget that the mind is an organ in “OUR BODY”

It is like a tool and we should not allow it to rule

If you think you are a slave to your mind then you are definitely making yourself a fool

Whether it’s about catching the flight or train in the last minute….

Whether it’s about beating the exam stress….

Whether it is combating the stage fear….

You cannot succeed at any of them until and unless you make your mind clear

Always remember the water when still seems so calm

But the same water when filled with waves and tides can cause mass destruction too…

Let’s change our lens a bit

No one is perfect. We all know this but very few of us are ready to accept the people the way they are. The most foolish thing someone can do is judge someone’s character when they are angry, sad, going through a rough phase or may be some emotional issues. Tell me how many of you would say no when someone has invited you for their birthday party or marriage or any happy occasion? Very few of you. The reason is we all want to be the part of someone’s success and happiness. But let me remind you the person who is happy can remain happy without you accompanying him/her. The person needs a helping hand or just a ear to listen to them in a non judgmental way when they are going through their tough phase. That phase can be of any sort. We all are humans and humans can survive on their own. That comes naturally to us. But lets not forget that what makes us different from the robots are “our emotions”. Well…nowadays if you laugh and always keep smiling in front of someone then they appreciate but that is also an emotion right. Then why expressing sorrows or shedding tears are not given equal respect? After all a person is just being expressive about their emotions. Do you think being expressive is wrong? Every time things cannot be HUNKY DORY. Sharing the stories of success and fame is appreciated but when someone is sharing the experience of their phase of depression or any trauma then that is considered as the sign of weakness in our society. People who influence others by being fake become the part of the huge friend circle but the one who is transparent and honest about their feelings have few friends. I know judging comes naturally to humans because are brains are wired that way to make right decisions in life but “there’s a lot of difference in judging some situation or obstacle and judging someone’s character“. We never realize this difference and apply the same principles in forming perceptions about people. You know from our childhood days our teachers always told us “If you point one finger at someone then the rest of the fingers are pointing at you”. This is something worth remembering.
Showing emotion is not a sign of weakness. While it’s healthy social skill to be able to behave professionally even when you are not feeling at the top of your game, letting your guard down at socially appropriate times isn’t a sign of weakness. In fact, being aware of your emotions and making a conscious choice to share those emotions with others is actually a sign of strength. Always remember if someone opens a chapter of their life on your desk then realize “how much you mean to them”. Nowadays you may get lots of friends who would love to hang out with you but it’s not easy to find a companion. So, embrace the imperfections in everyone. We all are independent but even the ecosystem cannot sustain itself without the “inter dependency”. Just because someone wants to be with you doesn’t mean that person is dependent or attached to you. There are times when your loved one truly needs you.
Just like a pot of boiling water- trying to keep the lid on- all that hot bubbling water will cause the lid to rattle. Our emotions are no different. There’s nothing wrong in being authentic about your feelings.
It’s time to uncover what is weighing you down. Emotions are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of courage and transparency. The books written by the author are appreciated more when the reader can feel the emotions. The movies would have never appreciated if emotions wouldn’t have been part of them.So, let’s change our lens to see emotions.

Some important life lessons

Life is very interesting journey but what makes it more meaningful are the decisions and choices we make. In this post i would like to share some important life lessons which will help you for sure at each and every stage of your life.

  1. One thing at a time: if you think you can multitask then you are dwelling in the biggest illusion. you must remind yourself again and again that multitasking is the biggest myth. You must practice focus. Focus and concentration come through practice. The way you exercise your body muscles by going to the gym, similarly, you must train your brain too if you really want to achieve your goals. to do this you must learn to prioritize things well. This won’t happen in your head. You must write things down on the piece of paper then act on that basis.
  2. Keep yourself calm: your brain functions at its best when it is totally at peace. Only you can ensure how to keep your mind calm in every situation. Never make important decisions when you are too excited, stressed or angry. Go for a walk, take some deep breath, listen to music etc.. I would suggest to write all your troubling thoughts on the paper.
  3. Attitude matters: people will watch innumerable motivational videos, read number of self help books but still cannot change their negative attitude. Tell me if worrying would have solved all the problems then everyone on this earth would begin their day shedding tears or yelling at someone. “Worry” is your biggest enemy and the worst energy sucker. Worrying about things only stop you from enjoying the “present moments”. Lets learn from the plants. The plants in the deserts don’t worry thinking about the harsh climate outside. These plants develop mechanisms that help them to deal with the harsh conditions like modification in their leaves, developing a thin film of waxy layer to prevent water loss etc.. We all know that our thoughts are totally our choice then better to choose thoughts that make you happy. Be happy… be optimistic… life is too short to be sad.
  4. Focus on your growth: don’t waste your precious time and energy behind people who take you for granted. Never cling on to anything. If someone wants to walk away from your life then let them happily go. If someone give rise to negativity then eliminate them totally from your life and thoughts. These people can only add toxicity in your life, beware. You have certain goals which demand a hell lot of energy. Always keep yourself at the top of your priority list. You are not on this earth to please everyone but at least you have total control on how to please yourself.
  5. Value those who truly cares for you: there are some people in your life who love you unconditionally. Never bring tears to their eyes because sometimes you never know they make you their first priority keeping everything aside. Never miss a chance to make them feel special. They can be your parents, your friends, your spouse..etc..
  6. Be kind: in the hustle and bustle of our lives we are forgetting how to be kindhearted. We yell unnecessary on people who never did anything wrong. Always remember each and everyone on this earth is going through one or the other struggles of their life. The only difference is some keep things to themselves and some like to share. So, whenever you come across anyone then please be kind to them because words have the power to heal the ailments which medicines cant.

THE WEAPONS WHICH EACH AND EVERY ONE OF US SHOULD CARRY

Hello friends, i know its been so long since i have posted my last blog. But today i have come up with the post where i would love to share certain qualities which i have referred here to as “weapons”. So,without a further ado let me introduce you to these weapons which all of us have but very few of us are actually aware of and don’t make the proper use of it.

  1. Self-belief: whatever you want to do in life whether it’s cracking a competitive exam, starting your own enterprise or writing a book, etc..etc.. The first thing you need is self belief. Self belief is that weapon which would save you when people would fire the bullets of criticism, discouragement on you. This self belief would act as a shield during your most difficult times and would ignite a fire in you to “keep going”. 
  2. Patience: things won’t come to you within a blink of an eye or a snap of a finger. you gotta wait a little. The one who can develop patience can achieve bigger and greater things in life and would also become a better person. Remember, everything happens at it’s own pace.
  3. The habit of letting go: if you cling on to your past mistakes or past achievements then you would lose out on the opportunities which are coming your way. Everyday is a new opportunity to make yourself aware of your hidden potential. Make the best use of it. Tomorrow has got nothing to do with what you achieved yesterday or what you lost. So, learn to start afresh every single day with a new level of enthusiasm.
  4. Focus: multitasking is a myth. You gotta be totally focused at what you want to do keeping all the unimportant things behind and to develop this unwavering focus you must learn to prioritize things and your tasks in a right manner.
  5. Be yourself: so many people….so many opinions. but your views, your decisions and your choices are unique. Always remember you are very precious. There’s no one like you in this whole universe. So,always be true to your nature.

The focus dilemma

Book on the table

Waiting for you to unravel the chapter

Eyes trying to converge all attention on the black letters printed on the white pages

But mind jumping like a naughty monkey blurr the vision of the eyes and now the letters just seem like black dots on the white canvas

One thought leads to the other and the cycle never stops

From the thought of what you had for your breakfast to the thought of what your friend told you last week

Pondering over yesterday’s problems or day dreaming about the future events

A different drama plays in your head where you are the director and also play the role of actor and spectator

The thoughts of career and when to begin your preparations for the exams

The thoughts of the mouth watering delicious cuisines

Sometimes you catch yourself imagining in the dress you saw last Sunday in the shop

Sometimes the thoughts of money you have already spend and now thinking how you could have saved it…

Sometimes the thoughts of meeting your family or friends whom you have been missing from the past few days

Well… It’s never ending story of thoughts

And the more you try to put your mind to focus… The more it jumps from one place to another

You don’t need a tag to realize the worth of your passion

Many times we all hear “follow your passion“. But, I would like to put it in a slightly different manner :” Dive into any activity which thrills you from the bottom of your heart and one day your passion will follow you“. To pursue your passion you don’t need to seek validation or an outside approval. Many a times your passion may turn out to be your profession but this isn’t true in all the cases. Does that mean you should not take some time out for your passion? No. I have seen people doubting their passions when they are not able to pay their bills by it. See passion, hobbies are the activities which brings you closer to “yourself”. Whenever you are doing things in which you completely lose the sense of the surrounding and time is called “Passion”. The amount of self satisfaction you would get in return would be beyond any measure.

For example, writing is one of my passion. That doesn’t mean that I need to be a published author to write what I want to. All I need is a platform where I can express my thoughts and freely convey my feelings on whichever topic I want. Similarly, take some time out from your profession to do things for which you are truly and deeply passionate because life is too short to sit and wait for the right time. Try spending less time in gossips and unproductive activities. Do something productive each and every day. It can be anything.

Do share the activities for which you are truly passionate in the comments. Would love to hear from you.

Let me share with you my passions :

  1. Writing
  2. Reading books
  3. Public speaking
  4. Improving my English vocabulary
  5. Singing

Bring that inner desire in you to make a difference before you leave this world…. Only then you would be able to live like legends…

Focus on the progress.. Not the feelings

Today you may be on cloud nine..

Tomorrow you may feel devastated…

Day after tomorrow the situation exacerbates and you start feeling perplexed..

You would definitely work more when you feel good and won’t feel like doing anything when you feel low. What does that mean? This shows your mind and thoughts are controlling your actions and your response to the situations is decided by your mindset. But mind is your tool and it’s work is to serve you. Are you getting what I am trying to convey here?

We all set goals, we all have high aspirations but very few among us can maintain consistency. The reason is that most of the times our external environment influence our thoughts so much that indirectly it creates a huge impact on our performance. Then how can one tackle this?

The only solution is –you gotta be mindful of your thoughts and remind yourself again and again that you are the master of your brain. You can change your thoughts and feelings. The moment you do this you start taking charge of your life. This will help you to keep progressing inspite of feeling low because now you know that feelings are temporary but your work plays a major role.

In life you would face thousands of situations and meet so many people with differing opinions. Imagine what would happen if you keep disturbing your mindset based on all these external factors. Your head is gonna blast one day😂😂…

So from now onwards let’s keep it this way : “I don’t give a damn what may come “…take a chill pill guys..

The seed when sown in the soil has to face so many vagaries of the nature but still grows into a plant one day bearing fruits..