THE WEAPONS WHICH EACH AND EVERY ONE OF US SHOULD CARRY

Hello friends, i know its been so long since i have posted my last blog. But today i have come up with the post where i would love to share certain qualities which i have referred here to as “weapons”. So,without a further ado let me introduce you to these weapons which all of us have but very few of us are actually aware of and don’t make the proper use of it.

  1. Self-belief: whatever you want to do in life whether it’s cracking a competitive exam, starting your own enterprise or writing a book, etc..etc.. The first thing you need is self belief. Self belief is that weapon which would save you when people would fire the bullets of criticism, discouragement on you. This self belief would act as a shield during your most difficult times and would ignite a fire in you to “keep going”. 
  2. Patience: things won’t come to you within a blink of an eye or a snap of a finger. you gotta wait a little. The one who can develop patience can achieve bigger and greater things in life and would also become a better person. Remember, everything happens at it’s own pace.
  3. The habit of letting go: if you cling on to your past mistakes or past achievements then you would lose out on the opportunities which are coming your way. Everyday is a new opportunity to make yourself aware of your hidden potential. Make the best use of it. Tomorrow has got nothing to do with what you achieved yesterday or what you lost. So, learn to start afresh every single day with a new level of enthusiasm.
  4. Focus: multitasking is a myth. You gotta be totally focused at what you want to do keeping all the unimportant things behind and to develop this unwavering focus you must learn to prioritize things and your tasks in a right manner.
  5. Be yourself: so many people….so many opinions. but your views, your decisions and your choices are unique. Always remember you are very precious. There’s no one like you in this whole universe. So,always be true to your nature.

The focus dilemma

Book on the table

Waiting for you to unravel the chapter

Eyes trying to converge all attention on the black letters printed on the white pages

But mind jumping like a naughty monkey blurr the vision of the eyes and now the letters just seem like black dots on the white canvas

One thought leads to the other and the cycle never stops

From the thought of what you had for your breakfast to the thought of what your friend told you last week

Pondering over yesterday’s problems or day dreaming about the future events

A different drama plays in your head where you are the director and also play the role of actor and spectator

The thoughts of career and when to begin your preparations for the exams

The thoughts of the mouth watering delicious cuisines

Sometimes you catch yourself imagining in the dress you saw last Sunday in the shop

Sometimes the thoughts of money you have already spend and now thinking how you could have saved it…

Sometimes the thoughts of meeting your family or friends whom you have been missing from the past few days

Well… It’s never ending story of thoughts

And the more you try to put your mind to focus… The more it jumps from one place to another

You don’t need a tag to realize the worth of your passion

Many times we all hear “follow your passion“. But, I would like to put it in a slightly different manner :” Dive into any activity which thrills you from the bottom of your heart and one day your passion will follow you“. To pursue your passion you don’t need to seek validation or an outside approval. Many a times your passion may turn out to be your profession but this isn’t true in all the cases. Does that mean you should not take some time out for your passion? No. I have seen people doubting their passions when they are not able to pay their bills by it. See passion, hobbies are the activities which brings you closer to “yourself”. Whenever you are doing things in which you completely lose the sense of the surrounding and time is called “Passion”. The amount of self satisfaction you would get in return would be beyond any measure.

For example, writing is one of my passion. That doesn’t mean that I need to be a published author to write what I want to. All I need is a platform where I can express my thoughts and freely convey my feelings on whichever topic I want. Similarly, take some time out from your profession to do things for which you are truly and deeply passionate because life is too short to sit and wait for the right time. Try spending less time in gossips and unproductive activities. Do something productive each and every day. It can be anything.

Do share the activities for which you are truly passionate in the comments. Would love to hear from you.

Let me share with you my passions :

  1. Writing
  2. Reading books
  3. Public speaking
  4. Improving my English vocabulary
  5. Singing

Bring that inner desire in you to make a difference before you leave this world…. Only then you would be able to live like legends…

The theory of love

The stories of Romeo and Juliet define love in it’s own way

The love of Shah Jahan for Mumtaz is reflected in the aura of the Taj Mahal

The Hollywood and the Bollywood movies have their own way to portray love

But what explains it the best is the “experience of falling in love

Late night phone calls and talking for hours and hours may not be the right way to express love

Buying those expensive gifts for your partner may offer them with the short term pleasure which may not be ever lasting

Going for dinner in the fanciest restaurant would definitely satiate their hunger for delicious food but may still fail to fill the lacunas of “feeling loved”

If love is about always being physically close to each other then what term would you give for the love between a soldier who is fighting on the border and his wife who is miles way?

Their bonding is still strong and the love never fades away..

If love is about offering expensive gifts to each other

Then how will the couples with a meagre income express their love for each other

If love is about always being available..

Then how will the two persons work to develop their own identity individually

You both are complete without each other..

But actually together you enhance each other..

A bit of humour would make this relationship more adorable

I know that there may not be the exact definition of love…

And love has so many branches too..

It’s an emotion..a serene feeling

The words may fail to convey it’s latent meaning

It’s something so genuine and pure..

It has the power to heal the ailment which the medicines fail to cure

It’s not about the quantity of time you spend with each other

It’s about the quality of time when you make the other person feel “Yes, you are the special one”

Focus on the progress.. Not the feelings

Today you may be on cloud nine..

Tomorrow you may feel devastated…

Day after tomorrow the situation exacerbates and you start feeling perplexed..

You would definitely work more when you feel good and won’t feel like doing anything when you feel low. What does that mean? This shows your mind and thoughts are controlling your actions and your response to the situations is decided by your mindset. But mind is your tool and it’s work is to serve you. Are you getting what I am trying to convey here?

We all set goals, we all have high aspirations but very few among us can maintain consistency. The reason is that most of the times our external environment influence our thoughts so much that indirectly it creates a huge impact on our performance. Then how can one tackle this?

The only solution is –you gotta be mindful of your thoughts and remind yourself again and again that you are the master of your brain. You can change your thoughts and feelings. The moment you do this you start taking charge of your life. This will help you to keep progressing inspite of feeling low because now you know that feelings are temporary but your work plays a major role.

In life you would face thousands of situations and meet so many people with differing opinions. Imagine what would happen if you keep disturbing your mindset based on all these external factors. Your head is gonna blast one day😂😂…

So from now onwards let’s keep it this way : “I don’t give a damn what may come “…take a chill pill guys..

The seed when sown in the soil has to face so many vagaries of the nature but still grows into a plant one day bearing fruits..

Develop connections

I know you feel very happy when you send a friend request to someone and that person accepts it. I know you feel very happy when people comment on your uploaded pictures and sometimes you spoil your whole day pondering about the one negative comment on your photo. You start doubting your looks and feel insecure about yourself. But you forget that these comments and likes are just the part of virtual world and the people who do that are just sitting and scrolling down their phone’s screen. A friend on social media doesn’t know you as a person and cannot develop a true connection to understand your emotions.

Nowadays, we all are losing on our communication skills and the reason being lack of face to face conversations. People read many books on how to be a good communicator and join classes too. But it’s all about dealing with it pragmatically. Go and talk to people. There is no substitute for face to face conversations where people exchange ideas, share their opinions, discuss life incidences and understand each other. This helps you to see the world through a different lens and from wider angles. You become more flexible and open to learning. A sense of curiosity arises in you to know more about different things happening in life.

So, from now onwards instead of spending hours on instagram and facebook liking photos and commenting why not call a friend for a coffee and have fascinating conversations? Why not take your parents for a dinner where you have deep conversations and develop a more strong bonding?

Everyone has a story to share but all are waiting for a ear to hear them non judgementally”

Tips to nail any competitive exam

Once you finish your schooling you are faced with these “competitive exams” for your bachelor’s degree program or masters or post doctorate etc.. etc.. Different exams are related to different courses but the strategy to crack any competitive exam remains the same. So here I am to share some of the tips which would be very helpful for you to ace these exams:

  1. Positive mindset: your mindset plays the most important role before you begin your journey of examinations. People around you may or may not support you in your journey but you must have immense faith in your abilities. Treat exams like exams. Don’t link the happiness of your life with success or failure in exams.
  2. Go through the syllabus and previous year question papers: the basic strategy to crack the examination remains the same every year and to form that strategy you must go through the syllabus and previous year question papers. This will help you to to focus on topics which has greater cost benefit ratio in turn help you to be more directional and productive in your preparation.
  3. Less is more: once you know what the exam is all about so now it’s time to choose the weapons. These weapons are the sources you need to put your hands on to ace the particular exam. Always remember that you choose the relevant sources and not waste your time over too many books. It’s better to revise one effective book hundred times than to waste your precious time reading things that won’t benefit you at all in the exams.
  4. Revise and repeat: no one in this world can be a winner by practising for one day before the final game. You gotta revise the things time and again so that it completely get drilled in your head and help you to understand the topics in depth.
  5. Don’t substitute basic books with high standard books: even if you are a master in any field never forget to start with the basics. That’s why it’s called “base”. Unless and until you have a strong unshakeable base you cannot think of making your concepts clear. Once you finish reading simple stuffs then it becomes easy for you to comprehend the tough material. But remember not to go for too tough material otherwise you would spend more time over one topic which may not fetch you satisfying results.
  6. Test yourself: test is very important if you want to make yourself aware of the weakness and strength in any particular subject. While giving test never forget to analyse your performance and focus on areas which need improvement.

Well… these were the tips I wanted to share with you and I hope it would definitely help you in your exam preparation phase.

Good luck…be confident😊👍

Your “vision” defines your life

One can focus on the thorns and feel the tingling sensation..

Or one can converge all the thoughts and vision on the petals and gratify the beautiful colours and patterns of the petals..

One can choose to heed on the leaves which are drying and defoliating..

Or one can look at the newbie bud which is yet to bloom and spread it’s soothing fragrance..

It’s all about how you see things through “YOUR EYES”…

Following the world blindly won’t make you wise…

So believe in your vision because “your vision defines your life”

Technology is meant for comfort…Are we getting the message right?

The early morning is the time when you feel totally refresh and the new day is ready to embrace you in it’s arms by providing one more chance to correct yesterday’s mistakes, finish the pending tasks, schedule time for your health. The day says “You have 24 hours and it all depends on you how well you can make use of it to increase your productivity”. All of us know this very well. We have read many books on how to manage time, how to be more focused at work, how to be more productive etc..etc.. Even after reading all the books, watching the motivational videos what do we do? Or the better way to ask is how much of the content we can practically implement in our daily life? We are feeding our distractions and starving our focus.

Technology is the great invention by humans and today it’s all because of technology combined with our curiosity to discover the unknown that we are able to reach great heights in various fields. But the point to be noted here is, “Are we making the right use of technolgy?” Take for example, our beloved cellphones. Before we wish a sweet good morning to our family members and our loved ones we generally start our morning routine by looking at the mobile phone screens. We check how many likes we received on Facebook, instagram and our whatsapp notifications. Then we spend time in liking someone else’s posts, commenting, etc..etc.. If you are still caught in this “good morning my cellphone” thing then you need to take a step back and ponder on it.

If you make a proper use of technology then you can save a lot of your time. The Internet can be used to study things you are interested to learn, new skills can be developed just by sitting at the couch of your home, you can apply for a online course, learn a new language, prepare for a competitive exam, start working from home, share your thoughts and experiences with large number of readers through blogging etc…etc..the list is unending but we seldom do this. It all depends on the individual.

Technology is a boon when you know how to play the right tune…

It can be a bane if you don’t know how to train your brain and can make you go insane...