It all starts with “The mindset”

When a child falls on the ground while walking or playing then he or she will not consider it as failing. The child will get up quickly and again start with the same pace or may be more enthusiastically. But what happens when you become an adult. You meet different people, you face different situations, you come across various challenges of life. And all these together have a greater influence on the way you see things, the you picturize yourself in your mind and also the goals you set for yourself.

Sometimes, failing again and again at any task may cause to lower your self-esteem and this is where you start developing a pessimistic attitude towards life. Without proper guidance and support at this stage you may start doubting your abilities and question your capabilities and potential.

The first step to live your life fully is to eliminate the word “failure” from the lexicon of your brain. Now you must substitute ” failure” with the word “learning”. When you keep such kind of attitude then you would be always ready to face different challenges and will definitely learn a lot. You may not be good at any particular task at present. But that doesn’t decide whether you are a winner or a loser. With practice and firm determination you can become adroit in any field. All you need is consistent effort and optimistic attitude.

I would like to share these beautiful lines from the book “Mindset” by Carol S. Dweck:

Why waste time proving over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better? Why hide deficiencies instead of overcoming them? Why look for friends or partners who will just shore up your self-esteem instead of ones who will also challenge you to grow? And why seek out the tried and true, instead of experiences that will stretch you? The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it, even when it’s not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset…


Spread your wings..

The little bird sitting on a branch

Thinking to spread her wings

Waiting for the breeze to blow

She didn’t know her path but still wanted to go..

But where would she go?

“The whole world is yours..don’t be afraid” came the voice from the tree

The tree knew that the bird was bit doubtful and bit scared

“Every one says to follow a particular path but I want to discover the unknown” said the bird in a low voice

A drop of tear started rolling down her cheek…

“You are the beautiful creature of are provided with the beautiful wings.. Go spread your wings and explore the unknown” said the tree

The sun rays fell on the colourful feathers of the bird

The bird was glowing..

With a belief in the heart she decided to begin her flight

Without worrying about anything she decided to go as far as possible

The tree felt happy looking at the cheerful face of the bird

They looked more attractive now

Don’t let the outside noise dominate your inner voice

You are born like a book lying blank on the desk

Every page is waiting to be filled with words and narrate the story of your life

You can pick up the pen and start writing the chapters of your life as per your choice

Or can wait for someone else to come and write “your book based on their thoughts and perspective”..

Which one do you think is better?

I feel it’s better to write your story in your own way

Once you start scribbling you cannot erase or tear the page

But you can definitely write a new story from the new page

Sometimes if things don’t go your way

Someone may spill water on the written pages

But that’s not the end of your story

With courage and patience you can start writing again

Let’s not depend on someone else to write your life’s story

Get up and live “your” life

Today you may be confused about what you want to do in your life. Chill.. there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s better to be confused than blindly follow someone’s footsteps. Spend some time with yourself. Find out what interests you the most. Try different things so that you would be able to understand what you love to do. You can do anything but it’s better to do “the thing that makes you feel alive”. Keep exploring and keep learning. You will fall.. You will fail. Don’t let the fear of failure stop you from following your calling. Keep a journal and genuinely write down what makes you happy. Okay..your profession may be different than your passion but you can take out 30 minutes a day for your passion. Life is too short guys and our most of the days are wasted in doing unproductive things or in pleasing others. Start living for yourself. One day you will be lying on the deathbed. The right time to begin anything is now. Be confused…fail..try… get ready to feel embarrassing situation but let nothing extinguish the fire in your soul to follow your dreams. It all starts from a firm belief in yourself.

The sunshine blogger award💕💕

I express my heartiest thanks to Vijethkannan for nominating my blog for this award.💮🌹🏵️/


  • Thank the blogger and provide link to their blog
  • Put the award logo
  • Answer the questions
  • Nominate your bloggers
  • Notify your nominees

My answers to the questions:

What do you think about the blogging world?

Everytime it’s not possible to find a person to talk. Sometimes we hesitate to express what we feel or the person with whom we are talking may find it difficult to connect to our thoughts. But the story is totally different in the blogging world. Here, you are part of a family filled with writers. There are many who share similar views like yours. This the medium through which one writer can have a look in the mind of another writer through their writings.

What motivates you to write a blog and who encouraged you?

I have been interesting in writing since I was a teenager. But I never realised that this is something I really love doing. Then eventually I started writing short poems and articles in my diary. I got to know more about blogging through google. Later I thought of sharing my ideas and views with more number of people and yes blogging is like a icing on the cake in a writer’s life.

What do you want to change in the world and why?

I wish to change the way most of people view “education“. Most of the time we think there is only one aspect of education that is “formal education” but we forget that education is not only confined to the institutions, schools and universities. We must realize the fact that learning moral values is also a part of education and our basic human values differentiate us from robots.

What you think about your followers?

My followers play a major role in making my blog successful. Their reviews help me to know more about my writing skills which includes my strength and my weaknesses.

Are you enjoying blogging?

Blogging has become a part of my life. It is something which was hidden deep inside my heart but was waiting for the opportunity to come out. It’s really fun. I can channelise my energy into something positive where I can express the craziest fantasies and share the lessons I learnt from my life with the world of bloggers.

Your favourite book? Why?

My favourite book is “The Charlotte’s Web” by E. B. White. This book is a children fiction but it teaches deep and true lessons about friendship and care. It teaches us to be humble, more kind and show mercy towards others.

Technology is a good thing or bad thing and why?

Well… Technology is a thing. The good or bad depends on how you make use of it. According to me it’s a good thing because bolgging is also a part of technology.

Is your life in balance?

The earth itself is facing the issues of imbalance ecosystem then how fair it would be to say that my life is in balance….

Share any one of your experience which changed you?

Well.. recently I was searching for some motivational content on YouTube then I came across this motivational speech by Muniba Mazari. Each and every word of her speech created a deep impact on my way of looking at problems of life. It taught me that we should never let the circumstances take our self belief away from us.

What you think about backtechinfo?

Backtechinfo provides one with very good motivational content and it’s simple language is easy to understand.

Short description about you in 3 words.

Imperfect real being

Tips for beginners :

My tips for beginners are as follows:

  • Write for yourself
  • Don’t wait for perfection because there always a road for improvment
  • Connect with more bloggers by reading their contents and truly appreciating their writings
  • Don’t get driven by the number of likes or comments. Just keep writing
  • Make blogging a habit. The more you write the better you get at writing….

Happy blogging!!😊

Questions for the nominees are-

  1. What fascinates you towards blogging?
  2. Describe your journey in the blogging world till today?
  3. What impact can blogging create on an individual’s personality?
  4. How often do you write posts on your blog?
  5. If you want to change one thing from your past what it would be?
  6. Who is your favourite author and why?
  7. Any breathtaking moment of your life? Describe.
  8. What is life? Describe in four words.
  9. Write about yourself in few sentences.
  10. What tips would you like to share with the budding writers?
  11. Any message for your followers

My nominees are:

Diet of an entrepreneur

“If you think the land is barren and useless then you are thinking like the rest of the world but if you focus on the solution and find alternatives then you are an entrepreneur”

Problems remain “problems” only when we think they are bigger than human abilities. But the moment you accept them as small and bigger challenges that moment you are heading towards a new discovery, an invention and this vision of yours will not only solve your problems but it’s gonna be helpful for millions out there who once thought it’s impossible to come up with a solution.

Entrepreneur resides in all of us. It’s not restricted to business only. Anyone who deals with life in a different and innovative manner is an entrepreneur. The most important is “you must think out of the box”.

Let us look at the diet of an entrepreneur:

  1. Ideas: Ideas come to you when you keep thinking about the solution from all the possible dimensions. You won’t get an idea in a blink. It’s not always necessary that all your ideas will be successful. You must not lose faith and come up with an another idea. You must not only dream of that idea but gather all your courage to make it happen.
  2. Risks: Trying something new is always risky but adventurous at the same time. Risks are unavoidable. They are the greatest teacher and helps to mould your personality. You become the better version of yourself. If things don’t go as you planned then you will end up with a good experience. Different risks bring different opportunities but you must be prudent enough to recognise and grab these opportunities.
  3. Passion: In a journey filled with risks, failures, criticisism and many ups and downs if you are not passionate about what you are doing then you won’t enjoy this journey of entrepreneurship. When passion mix with idea then something great is gonna come out of it. If you love what you do then the setbacks cannot stop you from making your dreams into reality.
  4. Failures: Failures are inevitable part of life. But failures should not stop you from moving further. It’s okay to fall down but it’s not okay to quit. It has been rightly said by Kiran Mazumdar- “Entrepreneurship is about being to manage failures and succeed after failures”
  5. Self belief-People will say that your dreams are ridiculous but that’s only because they have given up on theirs. Don’t get driven by other’s opinion. If you can believe it then definitely you can achieve it. “Don’t be afraid of being outnumbered. Eagles fly alone. Pigeons flock together”

The Cafe tells you so many stories….

The hot chocolate fudge and sizzling hot coffee were having conversation in their own voice and caught my attention

The ketchup and the menu on the table joined the conversation too

The ketchup caught me listening to their secret conversation and asked me-“Who are you?”

Well… I was amazed by the surprised look it gave

Because I was the one who regularly visited this Cafe

Then suddenly the coffee answered the ketchup’s question with great pride-“She’s is Jyoti and I know her very well because she come here to spend some time with me and write her blog posts”

That was so pleasing to the ears..i didn’t know the coffee’s voice was as good as it taste and may that’s the reason it has a special place in my heart..

Then the couple sitting on the table next to us caught our attention

The coffee started laughing looking at the way they were trying to fake things and showing everyone that it’s all going well there

But their artificial facial expressions were enough to explain their relation with each other

The hot chocolate fudge said in a low voice-“I don’t know why people are so afraid to let the reality come out in the world. At home they would fight and here they try to pretend everything’s alright”

“Hmmm”- said the ketchup in a deep voice who was still skeptical about my identity

The dim lights made the Cafe a perfect place to have lovey dovey conversations with your partner

There’s something different about these lights

The frames on the wall fills the ambience with positivity as one of them read-” The master in any field was once a beginner”

This Cafe has all of it…

A perfect place to celebrate your friend’s birthday

A perfect place for a date with that special someone

A perfect place for writers to pen down their thoughts enjoying soothing aroma of coffee beans…

“What are you thinking?”- the ketchup asked me interrupting my chain of thoughts

“Nothing much”- I said looking at the menu on the table

I finished drinking my coffee and got some ideas for my blog post

At least once in a while go to a cafe alone

You would definitely come across different kinds of people

It’s really fun to watch…

A part of my life

Morning time is the best time to get new new ideas. You are on the top level of your energy and your mind is totally fresh. New thoughts come to your mind. The warmth and aroma of coffee give you ideas on what topic you should write. This is how the day of a writer begins. In this post I would like to share a past incident of life. I was in class 2. Yes, I was too young to think that one day I would write about that incident “In English”

The story begins

New place, new people, new school and the innocent me. I was a soft spoken girl, a bit timid and now I had to face these smart and clever students. Before this I studied in a small town school where I never met such kids. Well.. somehow I had to adjust with my surrounding. But I could not find anyone in the school who would help me to cope up with the new environment. The students thought I am dumb because I could not speak English properly and didn’t seem confident and outgoing. You know what they said-” She’s mad, don’t be friends with her, she don’t know anything”. Imagine how would a child at that age feel. I felt heartbroken. I thought to keep this upto myself and not let my parents worry about this. So, I chose to be quite.

Then that day arrived…

Thinking of that event give me jitters. The teacher was dictating the questions and we had to write the answers in our notebooks. Yes, it was English class. I was not able to understand almost anything because I attended the classes late and now suddenly I had to deal with this class test. My notebook was blank and so was my mind. I was hell scared. The teacher was damn strict. Then she started checking our notebooks. She came to my place and looked at me as if she’s gonna eat me. I still remember that furious look on her face. She asked me to show the notebook. I denied and then she snatched it from me. She didn’t even bothered to know the reason and started slapping me…left and right. My chubby cheeks turned red. I was shivering. Nobody in my life slapped me that tightly. Then she took out her scale and started beating me. My palms went numb. All you could see was the tears rolling down my cheeks and I had no one around to console me. The whole class was laughing at me.

I went home in the afternoon. I was not talking to anyone. I was very scared. My mother somehow sensed my feelings by looking at the cute red swollen cheeks. Then she told everything to my father. The next day I totally refused to go to school. I cried and cried. I told I don’t want to study and wanna be at home. Imagine how scared I would have been. Then, somehow my father encouraged me and convinced me to go to school. He talked to my teacher and told her that it’s a new place for me and I assured her with time I would learn things.

I tried my level best to score good in the exams and with my consistent efforts I became the topper of my class. The students came to me to solve their doubts. I became the favourite student of the teacher who slapped me once. She loved me so much and even today she remember me. I was able to communicate in English with my fellow students and teachers. You know what… today English is my favourite language. I don’t know what but there’s something about this language that fascinates my mind. I also represented my University in debate and elocution at the National level. Then I started writing blogs and still there are miles to go and lot to improve….

All I wanna say is sometimes the incidents of your own life can help you to learn so many lessons. This post is not about how I became a topper or learned to speak English. It’s actually about how strong I would have been at that age to gather courage and prove myself…